Getting Out of Debt - A Helpful Guide

Fear of the Dentist - Fear of Debts?

I like to think I’m Wonder Woman … but I’m not really (sorry to disappoint you). It occurred to me today the real importance of facing your fears, rather than hiding from them. We even know that by not facing up to things the situation can get much much worse, and yet we still do it? Why?

You want to get out of debt, you want to move on but why is the fear of getting out of debt worse than actually getting out of debt itself?

I am terrified of the dentist, and despite being a therapist and having the power at my fingertips to use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). I have never tackled this problem head-on. I am basically far too scared to even contemplate putting myself in an un-safe space. So my life just carries on and I’m none the worse for it. I go round healing others but I choose to ignore my dentist phobia.

Now I have sore gums and I know I have to sort them out, but when I think of all the dental problems I had in the past it really panics me. I phoned the dentist today to make an appointment. I was in tears when I came of the phone as I was that worked up about the whole thing.

My purpose of this is not to make you feel sorry for me for having to visit the dentist, although flowers, chocolate and sympathy would be very welcome thank you I want to remind you that whatever you bury your head in the sand about IS NOT GOING TO GO AWAY.

Your debts will grow and grow, and grow beyond your control until you feel total panic at the mention of money, bank, debt or any other trigger words.

Not opening your post will exacerbate your problems.
Not sorting out your debt will exacerbate your problems.
Not being true to yourself will also exacerbate your problems.

Take action NOW. Your first step is to decide that you are in charge of your life, and that you can overcome this. You’ve probably overcome many difficult things in your life so far. Work out how much you owe and then visit Experts in Debt to speak to a friendly advisor who deals with people who have your problem all day everyday.

Your debt is in charge of you, take charge of it and show it who is boss!

Good luck, and let me know how you get on

It Pays to Organise Your Debts

Obviously your goal is to get out of debt, but what can do you in the meantime to help yourself?

My husband came out of hospital two days ago. We’re still in shock that he went in for terrible stomach pains, and we thought they would just keep him in overnight. 9 days later he finally came out after having a serious bowel infection. There were some very tense moments when the doctors were chasing the infection around. Trying to work out what it was, and how to treat it, meanwhile, my husband’s temperature and heart rate were going off the scale and didn’t look like they were ever going to come back down.

Why am I telling you this?

One minute we were fine, and the next minute I was seriously wondering if he’s ever come back home. Things can, and do happen that quickly.  If you do not have at least the minimum payment set up for your debts then you will incurr charges, and have people chasing you for payments. This is the last thing you need in a crisis!

GO NOW and check that you have direct debits set up to at least pay the minimum on your credit cards and other debts each month. Another thing you can do is to arrange a Debt Management Plan (DMP) where you pay a set amount each month to all your creditors – leaving you only one payment to worry about.

I’m not being morbid or over-dramatic, just practical. Do this today as a step towards getting yourself out of debt.

Many people today want financial abundance. We want a stable job, nice home, nice car, well behaved kids/pet, plenty of disposable income.  We want the classic, perfect family life that we see on advertisements on TV, but is it possible?

Have you ever heard the phrase that you reap what you sow? If you are putting signals out that say:

• “I can’t afford this”
• “I’m upset about money”
• “I hate my life”
• “I’m in such a mess”

What is going to come back to you? Chaos, misery, debt, depression …

There is a Law of Attraction that says what you focus on becomes reality. So how about trying this for a week or two before you judge what I’m suggesting.  Take those negative phrases above and turn them into more positive ones, repeat them to yourself daily and believe them.

• “I could afford to buy that new TV but I choose not to because I want to save my money for next years Christmas presents”
• “I look forward to things being better for me soon”
• “I am going to look for ways to pay what I owe, so I can be free”
• “I am not going to be a slave to debts, I am going to choose to pay them off, because I want to, and I choose to”

At the end of each day write down all the good things that have happened to you, even small things like someone making you a drink, giving up their seat on the bus, getting a bill through the post that was less than you anticipated.

Be thankful, be appreciative, and report back here with your progress